tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post7723977338606727840..comments2023-11-05T12:03:48.545+02:00Comments on RAGING BRAT: A Breakthrough - Even a Meme if You LikeKayleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05934614277122345382noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-90665122239460790982022-03-18T21:57:59.113+02:002022-03-18T21:57:59.113+02:00Great bloog I enjoyed readingGreat bloog I enjoyed readingCooper Bhttps://www.cooperbentley.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-54206785278422940432006-10-23T21:31:00.000+02:002006-10-23T21:31:00.000+02:00Tiggs - lol I'm with you I'm with you!! With Dante...Tiggs - lol I'm with you I'm with you!! With Dante too, obviously. ;) Oh, yeah, that thing with hurting their hands... yesterday he keps slapping mine and they were really hurting... how come theirs isn't??? *puzzled*<br /><br />Luv,<br />KayKayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934614277122345382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-26682600880378660492006-10-23T21:30:00.000+02:002006-10-23T21:30:00.000+02:00Lessa - hair bondage?? Tell me more on that! I am ...Lessa - hair bondage?? Tell me more on that! I am curious! I don't have much for bondage because my fav is Domestic Discipline, more like, I catch you doing something and I spank you on the spot. lol But like I said, when sex is involved, I love handcuffs and shit like that. Even though it's scary at times. lol ;) So... what do you have coming tomorrow??? Can't wait! Love ya!Kayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934614277122345382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-91880553273187433012006-10-23T21:29:00.000+02:002006-10-23T21:29:00.000+02:00Hey Kay,
I just read Dante's comment above and wa...Hey Kay,<br /><br />I just read Dante's comment above and want to elaborate on one particular statement:<br /><br />"We don’t want a woman who just lies there and takes it while hoping we just hurry and get it over with."<br /><br />Ain't that the truth... they want the kind that makes their hands HURT from spanking them too hard! He, he, he, I'm really gonna pay for that but that's OK...<br /><br />That's the pure joy of being a brat!<br /><br />Hugs and love and pillows for both of us,<br />TiggsTiggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13547847355311812871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-38307973510395736542006-10-23T21:27:00.001+02:002006-10-23T21:27:00.001+02:00Dante - I have so many things to comment on in you...Dante - I have so many things to comment on in your comment, that I will hve to do it tomorrow when I have time. It's very deep and interesting and I wanna do a proper job answering. ;) HUGZZ!!Kayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934614277122345382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-54746574620443492982006-10-23T21:27:00.000+02:002006-10-23T21:27:00.000+02:00OK... I just love all these comments... and Kayley...OK... I just love all these comments... and Kayley.... big hugsssssssss from Holland coming your way... I think this is great... you learned so much in just 24 hours... and this will stay and grow... and I am so happy for you...<br /><br />and then Dante's words... mmmm, broken de laws of the Dom Union... I am gonna remember these... <br /><br />it is as Dante says... DragonM doesn't need to tie me down... he just has to say "STAY" and I do... but I must admit I do like ropes... and all those beuuterfly feelings when DragonM is busy with a beautifull bondage... or a hair bondage... mmmmmmmm<br /><br />OK... I am writing half stories here... so hugssssssssssssss.. have a wonderfull evening...<br /><br />and uhmmmmmm, I think I have something coming tomorrow... ;-)<br /><br />hugsssssssssssssssssssssslessa{D}https://www.blogger.com/profile/01571032782838662345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-35449528156760876052006-10-23T21:24:00.000+02:002006-10-23T21:24:00.000+02:00Tiggs - Hey don't worry about the friendship thing...Tiggs - Hey don't worry about the friendship thing! You know I feel the same... every bit of it! And I also trust you with more than my spanko self. hehe The Daddy stuff - since we haven't tried it yet, we can't move on. lol So in order to evolve, we need to try it. Well, I need to. I dunno about Jack. lol<br /><br />Paul - no sub is the same, no Dom is the same. It's normal. I mean, our interests are devided even in our own spanko field, and we can hardly explain to each other what spanking means to us, so how can a vanilla get us if we, spankos, can't? :) I'm sure you and Mel had such a great relationship. It would have been great to meet her. Really. I mean you are great, so she should have been great herself. :) HUGZ!Kayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934614277122345382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-55966595396484472362006-10-23T20:57:00.000+02:002006-10-23T20:57:00.000+02:00Wowsa Kayley! Two fantastic posts in a row. (And t...Wowsa Kayley! Two fantastic posts in a row. (And thanks for the anniversary wishes.)<br /><br />Had I read this post without knowing it was yours, I would have guesses it was written by Tigger. I’m not kidding. You two are identical in so many ways on the idea of what spanking is about. This is also the first really good look at Jack that I’ve had and I must say I really like what I saw. He sounds like a great guy with a superb sense of humor. (Of course, he has to have a great sense of humor if he married you, lol.)<br /><br />There is one thing though that I must take issue with. Jack was right in one sense that he can take control at any time by tying you up to the bed. Almost any man could do the same. In fact, by that standard, any man could take control of you any time Jack isn’t around. That is physical control. All it takes is a little muscle or a bit of rope. Anyone can do it.<br /><br />But not just anyone can take mental and emotional control. And you surely would never offer it to just anyone. If Jack had such control he would have no need to tie you to the bed. All he would have to say is “do not move until I tell you to.”<br /><br />You said he has to take control from you but that is not the way it appears. Control is yours and yours alone. He can not wrestle it from you. It is yours to keep or yours to give. Once you have given it to him it becomes his. That does not mean he will automatically use it or use it wisely (or well). That is a never-ending, ongoing learning experience and only the most egotistical dom is foolish enough to believe he does everything perfectly (if he is that egotistical his submissive is surely smart enough to never tell him he doesn’t have a clue so his conceit is self-perpetuating). Once you give him control, you might be bratty or flaunt his rules on occasion, but you have given him ultimate control so the response is all up to him (within any predefined limits) and your “job” is to take whatever he chooses to dish out. If that fails to “correct” your behavior he is free to try something different. If nothing seems to work, he is free to say the spanking is over and it’s time to go back to being vanilla.<br /><br />Once you ask to be spanked and Jack agrees, you have “given” him control. He does not have to “take” anything from you. Jack is in the position of ultimate strength because, like me and Tigger, spanking is infinitely more important to you than to him. If you don’t behave, and you decide you prefer an ongoing wrestling match to see who runs the show, all Jack needs to do is say he is through spanking you. My way or the highway. With Jack and I those are not empty words. They would be if your husband had a powerful need to spank you, but he doesn’t. So, you behave (within certain limits because what fun would it be if you weren’t a brat?) or you don’t get to play.<br /><br />I have just broken a huge bylaw of the doms union by publicly disclosing that we intentionally propagate the myth that it is submissives who actually have all the control. Because of that, my membership is likely to be revoked. An effective dom naturally wants his submissive to cling to the illusion that she has the ultimate control because without it she would become a slave and the dom would become a master. The belief that she is in control is what allows her to be bratty. It gives her the strength to question us, to correct us when we mess up (thank goodness), to tell us our fly is down as we are walking into the grocery store, to keep us from running out of gas at 3 a.m. in a drug-infested neighborhood because they insist we stop for directions as we tell them we know where we are going . Without believing she has control she will have no strength should anything ever happen to us. <br /><br />Doms such as Jack and me love strong women. We love brats. That is why we married them. That is what we find attractive. We love the challenge. We don’t want slaves. We don’t want to take the fight out of you. We don’t want you to realize we have the ultimate control. We don’t want complete surrender. We want you to think you have the control. We want you to think we actually believe we are trying to “take control from you.” Spanking and submission to us is the same as sex is to a vanilla man. We don’t want a woman who just lies there and takes it while hoping we just hurry and get it over with.Dante d'Amorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06356292484130295379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-83692965511478371062006-10-23T16:44:00.000+02:002006-10-23T16:44:00.000+02:00Great post Kay, you make a lot of sense.
Something...Great post Kay, you make a lot of sense.<br />Something I discovered very early on, my Mel was my sub, she could on occasion be the brat from hell, but mostly she was my angel. In all my reading and research I've never found a sub exactly like Mel or indeed a Dom like me.<br />Each of us is unique, Mija and Heron may be more like you than say Tiggr and Lessa, however you and Jack must work out how to fill each others needs. You are unlikely to do that by trying to copy others. Talking is good, you'll get there.<br />Warm hugs and soft pillows, (?)<br />Paul.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03790580459962602757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402239.post-60058556545516027102006-10-23T16:41:00.000+02:002006-10-23T16:41:00.000+02:00Kay,
First off, let me say thank you, from the bo...Kay,<br /><br />First off, let me say thank you, from the bottom of my heart, and from my bottom, he, he, he... for the ever so drippy, syrupy sweet words and sentiment for me and Dante today...<br /><br />You've become a very dear friend in the short time I've been blessed to know you and we seem to get closer every day. This is indeed a breakthrough 24 hours for you and I am thrilled for you and also for Jack... doors are opening and you are walking through them together.<br /><br />I Think I only have one fiction story on my site and even that was written with a real-life premise but I, too, love Haron and Mija's stories... they are gifted writers to be sure.<br /><br />The Daddy thing? Yeah, babe, you're not alone there... we've done that, plenty. We used to role-play far more than we do these days but especially earlier on, we did it a lot. We worked me through a lot of really tough issues that way, too, and in many respects it was very successful for us while we were doing it.<br /><br />These days I don't see Dante that way and don't even want to, but that in itself is a huge breakthrough for me... and NOT because there is anything dirty or wrong or bad about it. Just because for me, it was time to move beyond that, and we've taken that step together.<br /><br />We talked a bit about the DD and D/s stuf last night, too, after my spanking, and some things will be changing again for us, though most likely not drastically and the mindset for me will remain the same. <br /><br />But the point is that it is all evolution and as long as you are continuing to grow and expand and move forward... learning more about ourselves and each other and using the spanking or the DD or the D/s as a catalyst for greater growth on a much larger scale within our relationship.<br /><br />I am so happy for you and so incredibly glad to have found you!<br /><br />Love and huge hugs,<br />TiggsTiggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13547847355311812871noreply@blogger.com