Control vs Spanking Interest

Let's have a chat on this, shall we?

Honestly, my mind was blank today on spanking issues to discuss, mostly because my real life is busy with school and work crap. But then I remembered this control and spanking stuff Jack and I talked about a few weeks ago.

Some of the normal people out there - yes, we call the "Vanillas" because they are funny individuals - are turned on by 'control' when having sex. A friend of mine stated once that her fiance looks a lot sexier and hotter when he pins her hands down and takes over, or when he ties her up. Another friend said that she cannot have a proper orgasm unless he is 'the boss' in bed. Many guys out there have the same domination problem. But when it comes to spanking... blank. Nothing happens. Maybe a few slaps on her/his ass might be arousing, but taking spanking to a whole different level and making it an erotic activity of its own is not an option for them.

Why?

For me spanking equals control. Spanking is about domination and submission. Can it be that vanilla minds view spanking as the means to get bruised? Would they like spanking if they tried it?

My answer might shock you, but I definitely think they would. If only they could take a step forward and change their views a bit, broaden their wavelengths to understand the spankos' points of view.

Maybe I am wrong. Maybe spanking is ultimately about pain. It is related to masochism, isn't it, and people who like control are not really sadistic or masochistic. But I am quite sure that in the back of their minds the word 'spanking' is lurking. Quite in the same way in which some you guys *wink wink hehe* are lurking around here... Umm, sorry for changing the subject. :)

You wonder why I bother to write about a boring topic such as Vanillas? Maybe because half of us, spankos, are into a vanilla-spanking relationship and are either doing fine, or not doing fine at all.

I am just saying that it is easier to convert a control freak of any kind to spanking than a completely normal person whose interest may lie in other fetishes, like stockings. Ok, I cannot comment on that one, since it's not my thing, but I would guess that stockings have nothing to do with control. Not on their own, anyway. I am just saying that there still is hope out there for some.

Obviously, you can get a spanking without the guy liking it, but wouldn't it be hot if he got excited during a spanking? :) Anyway, peseverance solves the problems. Usually.

I'm also going to add a link to Tigger's Wankable Wednesday. Because it's fun! :)


Peace!